The first thing to remember when talking to your parents (or loved one) about their care needs is…IT’S NOT ABOUT YOU. There is certainly potential for an emotionally charged encounter so be sure to focus on them, what is best to meet their needs (emotional and physical) and to keep them safe. Before getting started a private meeting with siblings about current situation(s) and care needs is a good idea just to make sure your all on the same page.
Be specific as possible so you get real insight into the situation and level of need. Here are some questions to get you started:
– Do you feel comfortable driving to the bank? What about driving at night?
– How often do you go to the grocery store? Is it hard to bring in groceries?
– Are you having difficulty with cleaning or household chores?
– What do you worry about?
– How does it feel to be 80 (or 90 or 100)?
– What do you talk about with your friends?
– What would you like me to know that I don’t yet?
You don’t have to tiptoe around questions; you can also ask what weighs on your heart. For example, if your loved one seems to struggle with a fear of dying, you might simply ask, “Are you afraid?” Honest questions can make difficult situations easier, and offer greater peace of mind.
If after your conversation you think you may need the assistance of an In Home Care Worker call us or fill-out our short information form, we can help.